I stood on a beach in Dorset on January 1st, 2026, in my underwear, staring at the ocean.
Let me be clear: I am not the kind of person who does cold water plunges.
I'm the person who wears thermals 80% of the time. Who shivers through Army Reserve exercises even in moderate weather. Who has carried a deep-seated belief my entire life that I am "chronically cold" and that cold = pain = something to avoid at all costs.
But on New Year's Day, something shifted.
Long before I trained as a hypnotherapist, I had been quietly observing the emergence of Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT). I was fascinated. Intuitively, I knew this modality was potent, an elegant bridge between neuroscience, subconscious reprogramming, and emotional liberation.
Still, I hesitated. Like many trauma survivors and facilitators alike, I’d done a lot of inner work. But RTT touched something different. When I received a discounted session from a newly qualified RTT practitioner, I finally experienced the depth of this work firsthand. I was blown away.
You may be feeling that you are behaving erratically and feel the urge to contact your ex. Despite them clearly stating “it’s over”, you still relentlessly call, text and email. Has your former partner started calling you a “psycho” and depicting you as the devil incarnate? Do your emotions feel out of control but you physically can’t help it? Sobbing uncontrollably and making dramatic appearances at your former lovers home in a desperate attempt for reconciliation sound familiar? You’re not alone.
I have been feeling out of sorts for some time but only just registering it because it is manifesting itself physically. Damn trying to dampen thoughts and feelings on a soul level! I always tell my clients that these will emerge regardless if they try to repress them. Why do we tend not to take our own advice though?! Feeling a general lack of motivation, I understand that this is just a delayed reaction to the event I alluded to in an earlier post - it’s all linked back to a toxic working environment (not my coaching business I hasten to add). Identifying what you can be in control of and what you need to let go of is important in these situations. As soon as you establish this, it will lose its grip and power over you.
Since embarking on a quest to seek independence I had become so incredibly happy in my own company as the trajectory of my life took a different course and transformed before me. By focusing on my well-being and self-development I felt a sense of achievement for the life I had created and became switched off to finding a relationship.
